When it comes to truth, what do you really want to know and how might it be beneficial to you? Do you want to hear someone tell you that he or she has been exaggerating, lying, rewriting your history, and doing any number of things for selfish reasons? Most people don't want anyone saying anything that is going to make them feel uncomfortable, but it's in the pain that we often find the peace and freedom we have always wanted.
Penning my non-fiction books, "Say Goodbye to Dad" and "Tell Me Mother You're Sorry" as well as other books like "Genealogy X: What to Expect When Researching Family History" I discovered much about myself and others. I recognized that sometimes we hold on to what people say to us whether right, wrong or otherwise because we just don't want to have to put the work in to do much more than what we are already doing in our lives. "To come up higher, be a better person, self improve, Change..." as some like to say, all requires time, dedication, energy, patience, and at times confronting those who we feel have hurt us with unfiltered truth.
Once one realizes what all needs to be done to achieve personal goals, he or she may not want to do much more than bury one's head in the sand. This is a clear indication an individual is not ready to walk in the spirit of truth and truly want to discover his or her reality. For example, take a moment to think of someone who presents his or herself as having a great relationship, wonderful children, awesome career, and more. He or she posts photo after photo daily of just about any and every item he or she has bought or created, what places she has visited, what her children do, and more. In time, you won't question her reality, because she has given you enough about it so that it appears quite charming online. In her presence, it appears to be more of the same. She believes herself and kin to be healthy and functional human beings until you see scars on her throat. Then you notice bruises on the children. You see her quickly go through her home taking great care not to let you see bedrooms. What is happening here? You start to question her and she makes up stories. Her partner walks in and she looks nervous. The children are quiet and also visibly nervous. The reality you perceived initially regarding this woman was based on what she had showed you online, but was not reflective of what is really going on offline. Attempt to speak the truth the way you see it poking at her fantasy world and before long she is ushering you out the door.
What does truth look like when it exposes you or others when you don't want it to? It starts off as an ugly experience. Your reaction is negative, defensive, angry, bitter, and more. But one day a light goes off and you come to the understanding that you played a part in someone else's experience that might have had some good times, but there were also some dark ones (see Laboring to Love an Abusive Mate). As much as we would like to believe we are okay (mentally, physically spiritually, financially, etc.) someone or something comes along and causes us to question our perceptions, actions, attitude, line of reasoning, and more. Self-righteous, stubborn, and over all difficult people don't like any one shining a flashlight on them or holding a mirror up, "Why are you doing this to me? What do you hope to gain from this? After all I did for you..." Meanwhile, they don't see the answers to prayer, the blessings ahead, new opportunities, and other things that will give them the desires of their hearts. (Check out YouTube: nmenterprise7 if you are ready for wisdom based on Christian concepts).
Too often people hope/wish/pray for things spiritually, materially and mentally and then when the trials come, not in the way they anticipated, they fall apart and soon forget what was it that they wanted out of life/relationship/business. "If I have to go through all of this to get it, then maybe I really didn't want or need it in the first place..." What a cop out!
Walk with truth, embrace her, respect the voice that challenges who you are, why you do what you do, and where are you going? Who knows, a truthful observation, answer, person, etc. just might be the key that will open the door with that jackpot behind it that you have always been waiting for, the partner of your dreams, the job you so desire, a better place to live, a happier mindset, and/or better quality connections with loved ones! But also be forewarned to read the fine print, because there are many false ideas, groups, job offers, partners, teachers, prophets, plans, and more that don't have your best interests in mind, guard your heart! Real truth sets you free, it doesn't put you in a mental or physical cage.
Nicholl McGuire is the author of many books, creator of blogs, and a virtual assistant. Learn more about her here. Feel free to subscribe to her blog.